Is Your Teen Walking All Over You? (Let's Fix That Without World War III)

Look, I get it. Your teen's giving you that eye roll that makes your blood boil. The one that screams, "Whatever, you can't control me." And honestly? Right now, they're not wrong. But here's the thing – it's not your fault you're here. It WILL be your fault if you stay here.

I've been there. My kid? Total nightmare. Every conversation was a battleground. Every rule was a joke. I felt like the world's worst parent, watching my sweet child transform into this... stranger.

And as you will see later... It was even worse.

Then (after many attempts) something clicked.

Turns out, we weren't speaking the same language. I was playing checkers while my teen was playing psychological chess. No wonder I was losing!

Here's the Raw Truth Most "Experts" Won't Tell You:

Your teen WANTS boundaries. (Yeah, shocking, right?) They're TESTING you because they're scared. And you're FAILING these tests because nobody taught you how to pass them.

But you still have a choice.

What are your choices?

Option 1: You can do nothing. Sit back in fear… let your teen drive you in any direction… watch your teen changing to a monster of medium size…

You can see yourself changing to a little slimy heap of gelatin who shakes at the smallest disturbance but can’t make even the most tiny step in any direction (believe me, I was on a good way to become this)

And your teen is not just a medium size monster…

Remember, your teen will not change direction by himself or herself. Your teen is made by nature to be a highly selfish monstrous creature who will eat you alive if you let that happen.

But there is one thing you CAN do.

Option 2: You can take action NOW to protect your sanity, your teen’s future and your future.

You were at that age as well... And there were people who managed to direct you to the person you are today.

Remember? What happened and who were the individuals that managed to shape you?

I don’t know your history in detail, but most probably your parents or persons who took care of you at that time played the biggest role.

Now, I don’t want you to be nice. I want you to look cruelly directly into it.

What memories do you have from that time?

Good memories and also others… not so good.

Today we will focus on the latter. Because we want to take a step forward. Being nice doesn’t do any good in our case.

Why am I doing this?

Right now I want you to know what your teen is going through right now. Don’t you want to know?

Not because I would like to blame you for something… or make you feel bad.

Just the opposite. I would like you to feel good. And your teen as well. Because you are going to do the right steps. We are here for that, right?

So… let’s get that dirty stinky job done. It will hurt most probably, being honest with yourself hurts, but living a lie hurts even more in the long run. Which pain do you choose?

Two questions for the beginning:

What resentments do you have from that time?

And…

… Whom do you blame for the problems you’ve smashed at in your life?

Hard questions? Most probably, but… Denial is just a cozy prison you build for yourself. Honesty is the uncomfortable step toward true freedom.

What stupidities committed those people?

Remember, nothing meaningful begins until you stop hiding from yourself. True change starts with an unfiltered look in the mirror.

So do yourself a favor.

Take some sheets of paper, a pencil or two and write your thoughts down. Now. Again, ignoring your truth doesn’t make it disappear; it builds up in silence, waiting to shatter your comfort when you least expect it.

You’ve experienced that many times… mostly not at the best moments….

What consequences left those stupidities?

Now… Write all the resentments, stupidities and consequences down in detail. It’s important you blame these folks who caused them on the paper as much as possible. If they did something stupid, they are responsible for that - set yourself in the observer role. Like you are not the object of stupidity, like it happened to somebody else.

It’s not their fault as we will see later, but right now it is very important that while observing these happenings you express your feelings as intensively as possible. On the paper only of course.

Yes, you are allowed to express your feelings. Including those you think are bad.

Actually, you are required to express your feelings which you consider bad or not appropriate. The worst ones.

Now, reread what you have written. Set yourself in the role of the object of the events you wrote about.

The role you’ve actually played in these events.

Write your feelings. All of them.

Yes, you are allowed to express your feelings. Including those you think are bad.

Actually, you are

required to express your feelings which you consider bad or not appropriate. The worst ones.

Maybe for the first time.

Done? Not yet? No problem, take your time. I will wait. It’s very important, you do it properly.

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…

…

Congratulations! You did a great job!

You should be incredibly proud!

Very small percentage of people on this Earth have done something like that.

And your hard work will pay off spectacularly!

How do you feel now? Write it down - all the feelings you can think of.

And now read again what you have written.

Is it really authentic? If not, adjust it. It’s only on the paper, nobody will see it ever. You don’t need to be afraid of anything.

It is safe to write whatever is in you. No harmful consequences will be caused, nobody will be hurt.

It’s the healing process… If needed, do the adjustments again and again. Until you are satisfied. And able to say - it’s the past and does not affect my present and future.

Because… don’t blame your parents or other persons for the deeds they have done. In most cases they did their job the best way they could.

They didn’t know how to do it better.

Nobody taught them. And they didn't even know they didn't know how to play their role better.

Now you will be maybe a bit surprised, because you didn't expect these questions…

Here they come:

What stupidities do you want your teen to remember?

And…

Which of them would be done by you?

I was surprised. A bit depressed. But I was happy after a few minutes.

But more of that later.

You will make mistakes for sure… Nothing wrong with that if…

... You can see the difference between mistakes and stupidities.

We all make mistakes. Only people in the graves and patients in mental institutions don’t make mistakes.

But there is a difference between stupidity and mistake.

Mistakes normally don't have long term consequences. Actually they are very welcome to deepen and strengthen the relationship with your teen.

In case you make a mistake you have two options.

First option is you don’t recognize and/or confess you have made a mistake. You just go on and on… maybe on very rare occasions don’t see you’ve made a mistake… but in most cases your pride and fear and stubbornness win and…

And the second option. Yes, you’ve made a mistake. You recognize it, you confess it to all the impaired. And you apologize and do everything you can to clean the mess you’ve made.

Actually, what would you expect from your teen to do when he or she makes a mistake?

Yes, exactly that is expected from you!

You see… a mistake with a second option continuation is an opportunity to build an even better relationship.

And if the first option happens too often… well that’s recognized as stupidity.

So, what stupidities do you want your teen to remember? And which of them would be done by you?

At the same time remember -

What stupidities were done to you?

Now I’ll tell you something.

YOU DON’T HAVE THAT EXCUSE YOUR PARENTS HAVE!

Because you know you don’t know how to do your job according to your highest potential.

What was not the case with your parents.

You HAVE all the abilities to EDUCATE yourself on what and how you need to do.

I’ll show you a shortcut now.

All your (and mine and from others as well) problems originate from following source:

You have not felt accepted according to your emotions in a particular moment.

But not accepted in the way everybody will just nod and approve whatever went through your head and other parts of your body.

What do I want to say with that?

Will give you an example. Do you know anybody who runs permissive upbringing?

Most probably you agree - the role of parents is to be parents, not the best friends to their child - especially in the teen years.

To be accepted means somebody gives you confirmation of understanding and accepting your feelings, but doesn’t mean that person will buy your drama.

Just the opposite - a true friend will not leave you marinate in your drama but help you to see and make the moves out of it.

With parents it’s the same.

Well, that’s a very wide topic.

Let’s limit to what we can do right now.

Ready to take a step forward? If not, I don’t want to waste your time. You can stop reading here because what is following is just for parents who want to be the best edition of themself.

First question: How do you make your teens feel accepted PROPERLY?

Unfortunately, most parents fail big time at this question. One tiny mistake and a teen is in a big drama. Tears. Screaming. Slamming the doors. Don’t think I need to mention more symptoms…

Not only once.

And when I was in this position, I felt like the biggest loser in this part of the galaxy. Rationally, I knew such things happen in industrial amounts. Every day to almost every parent.

But emotionally… How I can’t do it properly. My intention was to do the best and I failed totally. And I was lost in space… didn’t get what hit me, what went wrong…

Remember those two questions?

What stupidities do you want your teen to remember?

(Stupidity = Mistake not been treated properly)

And…

Which of them would be done by you?

Yes, those two questions came to my mind. Sometimes every few seconds. And believe me, I didn’t want to take part in this film.

I knew I made mistakes. But didn’t know exactly what mistakes. And when you don’t know what mistakes you are making…

… You can’t restore them the right way.

What follows when you don’t restore the right way?

Something with long term consequences. Which will be remembered. No good memories unfortunately…**

So I needed to find a way… Better way. Much better way from the best I knew at that time.

I was talking to some of my friends who found themselves in a very similar position.

At least I stopped feeling like the biggest loser. Because I had some company here. But it didn't help me much with my teens.

So I needed to find a better solution.

With some parents who wanted to do something effective, we stuck our heads together. Nerds of all kinds. Mostly lost. But some of us… had some experiences.

Some of us were going through it not for the first time. Yes, every teen is unique. But there are some things you can expect. And with some knowledge and luck they can be avoided.

Of course that’s not enough.

There are some parents with lucky kids. Why lucky? Because problems escalated to unbearable levels. So the parents needed to seek help.

And they have learnt something. A lot. And some others got some other solutions.

Some of them are teachers. Not that they know everything. But they know some little tricks which come handy at surviving as a teacher in a high school. And at home.

I’m no exception.

I came in contact with a psychotherapist when I came to divorce. He was a bad one. Did a big mess. Ok, we divorced. Still got contact with kids, taught two of them how to swim, we had fun traveling, skiing, hiking… And then came covid. And the mother of my kids prevented contact with me. We went to the court… Mother is a victim… Kids felt guilty and turned against me to protect their mother… Lasted for four years. Now we try to re-establish a relationship. Can’t get through without help from psychotherapists… Fortunately, good ones. Because I learned how to find them.

Then there was a friend… her daughter tried to stop her periods. And wear bondage over her breasts. Why? Her father left them and didn’t want to have contact with them anymore. Her idea was that her father hates her because she is not a boy…

And so it began. Experience on experience. Solution after solution. Also some psychotherapists are in our group. And teachers. And coaches. And also just parents. Who manage to keep their teens out of drama. Most of the times 🙂

Now…

if you are in a similar position…

Actually I dare to bet you are, but I’m not sure if you are aware of that…

Will you let it go its own way or are you willing to learn something?

Are you prepared to take responsibility for parenting teens? And avoid stupidities your teens would remember…

There is a red and blue pill. None of it is really tasteful at the beginning. But one of them will bring results you want – at least I hope that. And the other will just stay bitter…

Don't worry – I've got your back. Together we can get you and your family on the safe side. Happy side.

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